In 1985 when Spanish author Gabriel Garcia Marquez penned his mid and turn of the century novel Love in the Time of Cholera, he'd never heard of COVID - 19.
When Lorenzo Daza first discovers the blossoming young love of his daughter Fermina and Fiorentino Ariza he separates them by moving in with his deceased wife's family in another city.
He was likely not concerned about microbial dangers posed by their love.
He wanted them separated for more traditional ones.
"Fathers are fathers" that never changes!
The novel takes place during a time when Cholera was rampant. Throughout the years millions died from this devastating bacterial disease. It still exists, but thankfully there is now treatment for Cholera.
Every age has its own medical crises as our difficulty controlling COVID -19 demonstrates. As the world struggles to cope with this pandemic, many are finding themselves forced into temporary isolation providing time for self-exploration. Love, dating and relationships are common topics for reflection.
Navigating the minefield of dating and hopefully finding love has never been easy. Many factors contribute to creating and nurturing healthy, loving relationships. In The Death of Dating, I wrote the following to start readers on the road to building a fulfilling relationship:
Begin with this 4-part question:
- Who defines you?
- Who do you let define you?
- Who do you think should define you?
- Who do you want to define you?
The Answer, "You!"
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