So nobody is talking about adoption.
But the strange thing is adoption is exactly what we
should be talking about. Especially now. Surrounded by Bombs, Shooters,
Refugees and Politicians.
Adoption is how we embrace people out of choice, instead of obligation.
I chose to adopt six children with challenges. I love all my children.
Even the ones that came from my belly. But the adopted ones were more
intentional. They had to be because the process was harder. Nobody just adopts
six children because they got drunk one night and forgot to use a condom.
Adoption is hard.
But so worth it.
I built a family of eight children into an army of love and acceptance.
Their skills and their differences grew. They shone brightly. We were a rag tag
bunch teaching each other and stretching the world around us.
Adoption is a blessing.
And so worth it.
My grandparents chose to adopt my father. He was three. They adopted him
because no child had come their way. My grandmother must have wanted a baby
very badly. I think this because in the old yellowed pictures of my
grandparents my grandmother is always holding a doll. Always! She took it
everywhere until the day my dad, a real child, disembarked from a train to call
her mom. My grandma was a little crazy, but she sure loved my dad.
Adoption can be strange, immediate or long sought after.
And always worth it.
My parents chose to continue the fashion of acceptance and adopt my
brother. He was the same age as my biological brother and an intended playmate.
My adopted brother was of American Indian heritage and clashed with my folks. They found him awkward and slow and
seemed to hate the way he looked and moved. He was left-handed and his elbows were always in
the way. He was different. He had unusual boundaries and ideas. I loved him
till he died and beyond. Adoption increased my heart; it made me more.
Every ouch is absolutely worth
Adoption is hard. It is a natural occurrence that even animals undertake.
But it is also messy and it doesn't always end in Happily Ever After, yet it is always an
opportunity for growth and improvement. If you choose it.