7 Ways to Become a More Responsible Millennial Parent

Instead look for a parental control solution that works with your router, through which all home broadband wifi connections go through to access the Internet. Having a single point of access to "choke" is infinitely easier to manage then dealing with all of those disparate devices -- most of which our kids know more about then we do.

One router management solution is to use the parental controls features likely built right into the router itself. Nearly every router has some way to restrict access of devices to the internet. However, because routers are designed for IT-Pro type technical folks, you won't be able to use most of these router parental control features unless you have a basic understanding of networking concepts such as IP Addresses, MAC addresses, firewalls, packet filtering, and DNS Servers to name a few. These leaves the vast majority of us mere mortals high and dry.

Nonetheless the principal of controlling a home broadband network from the router directly is fundamentally a solid approach, so all you need is an easy way to do this. The WebCurfew.com service is a website that provides exactly that -- a free, parent-friendly way to manage the internet connectivity of ALL of the devices connected to your home router, as easily as you would your living room light switch. Simply visit the WebCurfew.com website and tell it the make and model of the router you already have in your home, and if it is one of the dozens of routers WebCurfew supports as of this writing, you can see and control them all from an easy to use, personalized Control Panel webpage. No software to download, or devices to deal with.

But what about the mobile network? The above "router-centric" approach doesn't work here since mobile phones generally have a "data plan" that works on the cellular network provided by cell towers in your neighborhood. To control the devices for this network you do need to look at a solution that your cellular provider offers. Visit their website or call up their customer support and tell them you are looking for parental controls for your child's mobile phone. They will be happy (because they charge you for the extra service) to explain your options.

In summary, use a cloud-based approach like WebCurfew to control your home broad network and use parental controls provided by your cellular provider to control the mobile phones in your home. This approach will ensure ALL use of the internet is managed in your home -- including mobile phones regardless of whether they are using their data plan network connection, or the home wifi network connection.

4) Put limits on where they go online

How can you easily control where your kids go when they are online -- the websites that they visit and the content they consume? For this you need a web content filtering strategy. This, once again, must be instigated separately on the two different networks in your home internet domain.

For the home broadband network, you can use available free web content filtering services such as those that come with WebCurfew.com or with OpenDNS.com . These services allow you to select from a litany of broad categories of internet content such as 'Pornography', 'Gaming' or 'Social Networking' and block all content pertaining to them. With a one-time configuration to your router (note the WebCurfew service can often do this automatically for you) you will have an easy, effective way of preventing anyone in your house from visiting undesirable websites from any device attached to your home broadband network.

With respect to mobile phones in your home, to control the content filtering on those devices you will once again have to speak to your cellular provider to understand the features they offer in this area.

5) Put limits on when they go online

It is very important to limit the total time children spend online regardless of their age. This is the single biggest thing a parent can do to reduce the potential for tech-addiction developing. For this you will want to restrict the times at which your children's devices have access to the internet.

As mentioned above for the home broadband network you should do this via your router -- either directly using the built in (albeit technical) parental controls and/or firewall settings of your router, or more simply with the WebCurfew.com service. Choose the times when your children are allowed to go online and be sure to be consistent. For example, consider making it the norm in your home that kids can go online in the evening after dinner and homework for a set amount of time, but that all internet is shut off a half an hour before bed to allow time for book reading.

Similarly use the Internet Parental controls provided by your cellular provider to limit when their mobile phone data plans are available, thereby ensuring they have no way to "go online" unless you wish to allow it.

6) Set Clear Expectations

If you make the decision to implement a comprehensive home internet strategy as described above, be sure to sit down and discuss it with your children. Many parents make the mistake of just installing the system and then are surprised or angered when their kids, who have, until that point, had unrestricted access to the internet, try to get around it. Kids are less likely to try to cheat if they know they will get caught, so let them know that you are instigating boundaries on their internet usage, for their own good, because everyone needs "seat belts" to keep them safe.

Children do not have the self-discipline to limit their own usage. Let them know that it is your job as a responsible parent to set fair but firm boundaries. Consider asking them when they would like to have their hour of internet time every day. Perhaps after school is better for them than after dinner/homework time. If they feel they are participating in the decision making they won't feel as "controlled".

Finally, before you give your 12 year-old a shiny new internet-enabled device, consider having them sign your own version of an ' iRules Contract'[2] . This is a great way to establish your expectations around appropriate technology use, as well as clearly set out the consequences when they inevitably slip up. It's also a great away to broach the subject of parental controls as general parenting strategy with your child.

7) Learn to Trust Your Children

There is another entire category of parent control solutions, best described as "surveillance tools" that allow you to spy or otherwise keep tabs on your children without them knowing it -- at least initially. Consider carefully the message you are sending to your child if you use these tools to keep track of what they type in text messages or post on-line, what pictures they take, what games they play, or where they go with their phones.

While it is important to be a part of their digital lives, it is also important to have mutual respect in the parent-child relationship. If you are crystal clear on your expectations of them as digital citizens while providing responsible boundaries, then you make it easier for them to succeed.

You don't let your kids raise themselves in the streets, so why would you let them raise themselves online? You need to take action to ensure that your kids have safe, healthy boundaries around their online usage. Parenting in the internet age doesn't have to be hard. By taking back control of your home internet domain, putting responsible limits in place, setting clear expectations and consequences and enforcing those limits by implementing a 'web curfew' with great free resources like WebCurfew.com , you can raise children that use the internet in a balanced and responsible way.