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On being old vs. being 'elderly'

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By Bob Gaydos

I was born in 1941. I am chronologically old. However, in my opinion at least, I am not "an old man." And I am definitely not "elderly."

I'm also a little annoyed at having to once again explain to the under-50 crowd the nuances of referring to the over-50 crowd. But obviously someone has to do it.

A while back, I wrote a column headlined "I am not an old coot." Pretty self-explanatory. A health professional, apparently trying to be cute, had referred to me in that less-than-complimentary manner. I had apparently displayed an ability to think and speak for myself. I was not amused. In the vast spectrum of ways one can refer to persons who have lived a certain number of years, old coot is down near the bottom of the list. I have occasionally been referred to as a curmudgeon and I will accept that, even with a bit of pride. But in all humility, I figure I fit in someplace between old coot and village elder.

That does not mean I feel that I am "elderly." This issue arose in a recent social media posting, the headline of which referred to an "elderly couple."

He was 64 and she was 61. That's not even Social Security old. Someone left a comment that pointed this out. The poster defended the description by saying the male had referred to himself as "an old man," (See above. Like this younger gentleman, I may accurately call myself old, especially in comparison to others. It's a fact. But "elderly" is another dimension.)

The thing is, "elderly" is a loaded word and none of the images it suggests, even when accurate, is especially flattering to the older person being described. Some can be hurtful. And that ought to matter.

I asked a few people what came to mind when I said the word "elderly." I got back: feeble, infirm, doddering, technically challenged, sick, cranky, slow, boring, out of touch.

I did not get back: experienced, knowledgeable, reliable, funny, comforting, competent, patient, concerned, aware, talented, smart or tech savvy.

Now, with those responses in mind, if you just went by the numbers to define elderly just think of all the actors, musicians, artists, writers, scientists, teachers, business, civic and political leaders who would be dismissed.

Elton John, 74, is holding a farewell tour because he is a well-respected, talented, legendary musician who has contributed significantly to society for many years and wants to do other things. Does anyone think he is elderly?

Whether you like her politics or not, there isn't a sharper, more energetic, more dedicated political leader in this country than House Speaker Nancy Pelosi, 81, a wise senior member of Congress.

I recently watched a YouTube interview with linguist Noam Chomsky, who looked every bit of the 93 years he has lived. But elderly? A village elder, I submit.

It's simple. Numbers don't always tell the story. Old age isn't what it used to be, at least not for everybody. They say 60 is the new 40, 80 is the new 60. I don't know.

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