NOW YOU'RE SPEAKING MY WAY, REVIEWING the MESSAGE OF Gary Chapman to the Married World
By Kevin Anthony Stoda, Germany
I have just returned from the Philippines, where I spent over a month with my wife. Along the way, I read and reviewed parts of two books by two American authors that have helped me and my marriage. The first book was given to me by my church in Kuwait, just after my wife and I were married in a formal ceremony a year ago. The second book was Gary Chapman's NOW YOU'RE SPEAKING MY LANGUAGE. I bought this second book while underway in my journeys in Palawan during the weeks my wife and I were establishing a new residence on that island.
The classic book, given to my Kuwait church family, is named HIS NEEDS, HER NEEDS. It was written by Dr. Willard F. Harley in order to help all marriages stay on track, i.e. especially after the honey moon phase or whenever periods of anemone have arisen in the marriage relationship. The subtitle of this book is "Building an Affair Proof Marriage", but that is only of marginal interest for me in the total work, which seeks to increase mutual companionship, love, and compatibility between married individuals, their behaviors, and their desires over weeks, months, and years of practice involving good planning for their lives and ever-increasing communication skills.
A summary of Dr. Harley's main concepts can be found here:
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