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Giving Your Child Real, Life-long Survival Skills: Verbal First Aid

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PART II, continued from 7/12/10

Children and Hardwiring

Children develop working models of the world in their minds as they develop. This starts at birth. Emotional memories and experiences are formed into templates and stored in the right hemisphere of the brain. These templates then begin to form impressions of the world that determine how we respond to any given situation.

If children have been given calm, authoritative guidance and love, they see the world as safe.

Safe Babies and Verbal First Aid
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If children have been abandoned to their own devices prematurely, they fail to integrate their perceptions properly and see the world as unsafe.

As Sibcy and other Attachment theorists claim, every child from birth is in a constant state of assessment: Am I safe? This is the question that must be answered and IS answered by his or her experience.

What do parents want for their children?

They want them to be healthy, resourceful, and adaptable. They want them to be able to reason on their own, respond to challenges as they come up, and enjoy full, meaningful lives.

What does Verbal First Aid teach children?

By using words to facilitate a different perception and a blending of cortical and limbic functions of the brain, we are teaching our children self-healing, self-regulation, cognitive modification, the ability to relax and focus in crisis, as well as ahealthy self-reliance when things get tough.

How can parents do this with Verbal First Aid?

According to medical experts, anxiety (or fear) and pain are inextricably woven together for the vast majority of people. A great deal of human discomfort comes from our anticipation of it and our perception of it. Unfortunately, there is nothing marketed as vigorously in this country as is fear. If we're not scared to death by a headline, it's a radio report, a movie, a video game, or a television show. We're literally bombarded by images and ideas that promote fear. We are propelled by it and sold by it.

Children are even more at risk, since they don' t yet have the cognitive apparatus to separate what is true and what is not, what is being used as a sales tool or a ratings booster (usually shock, scandal and fear) and what is genuinely something to prepare for.

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Judith Acosta is a licensed psychotherapist, author, and speaker. She is also a classical homeopath based in New Mexico. She is the author of The Next Osama (2010), co-author of The Worst is Over (2002), the newly released Verbal First Aid (more...)
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