(2) Compromise
(3) Listening
(4) Fairness
(5) Peacemaking
He repeatedly connects listening with eliciting further talk from somebody -- and with empathizing with somebody.
For further discussion of the optimal form of the Lover archetype in men, see Moore and Gillette's book The Lover Within: Accessing the Lover [Archetype] in the Male Psyche (1993).
In theory, the optimal form of human development would involve being able to spontaneously access the positive characteristics of each of the four response patterns as needed by present situations. However, in practice, most people usually are NOT able to spontaneously access the positive characteristics of each of the four response patterns as needed by present situations. In short, most people need to learn how to spontaneously access those positive characteristics optimally.
Now, in addition to listing five positive characteristics of each of the four response patterns (page 106), Pete Walker also lists 10 detrimental characteristics of each of the four response patterns (page 107).
Coincidentally, Moore and Gillette claim that each four basic archetypes of maturity comes with two "shadow" forms, but only one optimal form.
Now, a person may be characterized predominantly by one response pattern (e.g., the fight response as Pete Walker delineates it).
But Pete Walker sees the fight and fawn responses as constituting one polarity, and the flight and freeze responses as constituting another polarity (page 68). So a person may be characterized predominantly by a certain combination or hybrid of two responses -- one from each of the two polarities (e.g., the flight-freeze hybrid as he delineates it). For example, he does discuss the fawn-freeze hybrid type that he sees as characteristic of the victims of domestic violence (pages 134-136).
However, Pete Walker does not discuss the freeze-fawn hybrid type. When he discusses the hybrid combinations, the response he lists first is more predominant than the second response (e.g., flight-freeze hybrid, or freeze-flight hybrid, as he delineates each of these hybrids).
In general, Pete Walker sees psychotherapists of all schools of psychotherapy as drawing on the fawn response pattern because he sees it as involving and eliciting and empathizing. However, when he discusses the fawn-fight hybrid response pattern (pages 136-137) and the fawn-flight hybrid response pattern (pages 137-138), he does not explicitly mention psychotherapists. Perhaps many psychotherapists tend to be flight-fawn hybrid types or freeze-fawn hybrid types. I will return to the possible type of psychotherapists momentarily.
Now, because Pete Walker delineates each response pattern in terms of attachment theory, he thinks that "attachment hunger is at the core of most addictive behavior, even process addictions. An example of the latter is the sex and love addict's desperate pursuit of high intensity relating. Perhaps all addictive behavior is our misguided attempts to self-medicate deeper abandonment pain and unmet attachment needs" (page 256; also see page 95).
But Pete Walker differentiates love addiction from sex addiction. "Another distinction between these two types is that [the] fawn-fight type seeks real intimacy. She [or he] is the most relational hybrid and the most susceptible to love addiction. She [or he] stands in contradistinction to the fight-fawn [type] who is more addicted to physical release, and hence more susceptible to sex addiction" (page 138). (Before St. Ignatius Loyola's famous conversion experience, he was a sex addict.)
Unfortunately, Pete Walker does not happen to explicitly use the term "predator" heterosexual male sex addicts whose pursuit of sex leads them to become predators by making unwanted sexual advances on women -- and even at times raping them (but see his discussion of one client, pages 224-225). However, as I write, news stories keep appearing about certain prominent male sexual predators in positions of power over women such as Harvey Weinstein.
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