Rob: Well it's interesting because one of the things that I've been looking into is authoritarianism. How would this transition from adult attachment to peer attachment affect authoritarianism?
M.S.: That's a huge question but many many things are popping in my head. Again the major issue is who is the authority? Defining the authority. I think the way authority is defined would be the first thing to change. So there's the authority that you "must obey" or you're in trouble so, for example perhaps a judge or police officer, whether you respect them or not and then there's the authority that you can wiggle around with because there's no consequences and I put parents unfortunately in that classification and to a certain extent teachers.
Rob: And how would it be different if there was adult attachment?
M.S.: Meaning, it's very simple, when a parent says don't do this, you just respect by the nature of the years on the planet and the fact that they are your parent that there's wisdom behind their work and you respect that. You might later come back and say I don't understand could you please explain why but you actually want the explanation because you respect, again, their wisdom and you want to learn from that versus with peer attachment, it's like you're not the boss of me, who are you to tell me this and they essentially only want to argue to get what they seek. The wisdom is not respected at all.
Rob: I apologize because I'm really asking you to get to an area where you were discussing an issue that you really not an expert at right? This is not your main focus.
M.S.: This is pure opinion at this point.
Rob: Yes, but it's interesting I would think that this transition from adult attachment to peer attachment has been happening over the last 40 years maybe even since World War II when the suburbs developed.
M.S.: And it really started to solidify in the 60s but to go back in who defines the authority, I think we are really onto something here in that the authority now is Google, Wikipedia. I was presenting at a conference for approximately seventy secondary school teachers, actually yesterday, and one of the issues that they were having was exactly that. That when they would be teaching something, the students would interrupt or say, Oh no, literally pull out their phones and check it or they wouldn't want to follow the main lecture of sorts. I don't need to listen to you I'm just going to check it on Wikipedia and these are the attitudes that teachers are facing live in their classrooms. So in terms of authority on knowledge and also one of my issues years and years ago was the quality given to anyone that posts despite credentials, experience etc. the assumption that because you read it online, it's true. Versus when we talk with somebody, we look at things differently.