Oftentimes we are stuck in a mentality of pointing the fingers outside of ourselves in blame. To see how this works, point your finger at the screen and say "It's your fault everything is a mess." Now, look at your hand. Is it any accident that Nature has designed your hand to where you inadvertently have 3 fingers pointed back at yourself?
My wife just shared a dream with me. Her daughter Jessica had come home from college and she and Jess had gone to the church where she used to be in the youth choir. They were sitting in the pews and Jessica was making some ruckus. When the youth choir came in to sing, Jessica joined them and became over dramatic in her singing. She was basically showing off. To top it off, she went out front and said "ta-da."
The choir director was very angry and said "you owe an apology to the congregation and especially to the two lead choristers." Jessica then replied "they were laughing, they loved my performance". The choir director became angry and went to get a switch to beat Jessica with, to punish her. Somebody in the congregation then questioned this action. Somebody then said it was in the rules of the church to spare the rod you spoil the child.
My wife then stood up and said, "Isn't anybody going to stop? It's abusive, it's absurd." Nobody was going to come to Jessica's defense. Merry then said, "This is crazy, we're out of here." She then grabbed Jessica and went out.
Once outside, Merry said to Jess, "What was that all about?"
Jessica broke down crying and said her best friend in choir had gone away to college and committed suicide.
Merry then said "it's a reason to grieve and be angry but not an excuse for your behavior. But, your behavior was not as bad as the choir mistress, the Priest, or the congregation."
What the dream implies is that all the characters in the dream are responsible for what had happened. In like fashion, we are all responsible for the state of the world. It's not the republicans, it's not the democrats, it's not the corporation".it's all of us. What Merry did in the dream was to say "no" to the pattern of all the characters.
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