"True success can be attained only through self-satisfaction in knowing that you did everything within the limits of your ability to become the very best that you are capable of becoming ." Coach John Wooden
The Myth of Ruthlessness
We all know the saying: "Nice guys finish last." We all feel the fear inherent in these words. But is this assertion even accurate? I say it is not and I have proof.
ESPN writer Tim Keown expressed the current version of this mythology in his article entitled: "Failure lies with Dolphin Leadership." In his article he states the current view as follows:
"Beneath the disgusting details of threats and taunts and racism lies an uncomfortable truth: The NFL needs Richie Incognito more than it needs Jonathan Martin.
Coaches love players like Incognito. They look at guys like Martin, known as soft-spoken and thoughtful while at Stanford, with skepticism. Does he have the killer instinct? Does he care enough? Those questions don't apply to Incognito. Coaches might not want to see him after hours, but they love him on the field. He's indispensable, a tone-setter, the guy who announces your team's presence with a crazed, through-the-whistle style that is prized at every level.
Coaches chuckle among themselves: He might be a horrible human being, but he's our horrible human being. Sociopathic behavior from players at certain positions is not only tolerated but cherished. As long as it stays out of the headlines and the police blotters -- in other words, as long as it's kept in-house -- it provides the kind of toughness you need to compete."
November 4, 2013, Richie Incognito was suspended indefinitely from the Miami Dolphins because of threats, taunts and racist comments he made to fellow teammate and offensive linemen Jonathan Martin. Incognito is part of the Dolphins six-player leadership council. Apparently, Incognito is the team enforcer. He is the guy you go to when you want other teammates to "man-up." He appears to be the soul of ruthlessness.
Keown described him as "indispensable", "a tone-setter", "the guy who announces your team's presence," and "crazed." He said that this kind of guy is "prized" in football "at every level." And even though his coaches and evaluators would describe him as a "horrible person" and even a "sociopath" he was "cherished" as a player because of what is viewed as his "toughness."