Conservative concerns regarding the size of government are both a distraction and disingenuous. Conservatives focus solely on the size of government because they have a fatalistic view that governmental unfaithfulness is a "boys will be boys" problem. Therefore, Conservatives insist that dependence on government be curbed, so as to limit our vulnerability. Meanwhile, controls on accumulating power in the private sector are to be rejected as being too dependent on government and limiting personal freedom.
Conservative objections to big government do not help us understand the proper relationship between a government and its people. The job of any sort of democratic government is to represent the desires of its people and to work for their best interests. Sometimes, the desire of the people is to be let them alone while, at other times, people need protection or assistance. But an unfaithful government cheats on its people by courting the powerful and rich. And if that isn't bad enough, many of our government's paramours include those we need protection from. Our government's dalliances can be seen in many of its domestic and foreign policies
There are a few problems that exist with the Conservative approach to government. First, by accepting that government is unfaithful or corrupt, the problem is dismissed. Here, the Conservative focus on limiting the size of government relegates an unfaithful government from having a disease like cancer to having a disease like hemorrhoids. That is, instead of eradicating the problem, Conservatives insist that we must manage it.
We should also note how the conservative approach is also disingenuous. First, the Conservative objection to big government is selective. Conservatives often perform Paul Revere rides yelling "Big government is coming. Big government is coming." when the domestic programs grow, but there is no such ride when government expansion means more defense spending.
Second, the Conservative mantra that size corrupts only applies to government, not to the private sector. Conservatives are never bothered by the size of any private sector business or corporation. They may not want any business to have a guaranteed existence, but they are never bothered by its size. So Conservatives simply say "more power to you" to any business that can continue to grow regardless of the price that others have to pay for that growth as long as the business is not rescued by the government if it gets into trouble. At the same time, Conservatives see the government's role to protect us from power circles in the private sector. They prefer to leave the protection to the same private sector.
We enable our government's unfaithfulness in another way. Americans are, for the most part, escapists. We spend our free time on entertainment. We prefer to watch talent shows and sports to watching documentaries and the news. We prefer to read fiction rather than non-fiction. The result is that we deliberately look away so as to not see our government's cheating. Sure we know they cheat, but because we don't know details, allow the government to continue to cheat in many of the same old ways. In addition, too many of us Americans prefer to escape reality while at home rather than to take some of our spare time and spend it in the kind of activism that tries to keep our government accountable.
Certainly, a lot more can be said about how government is like love. The question becomes what are we going to do with this unfaithful lover? Will we just accept our government's behavior because we feel there is nothing else we can do? Or, will we take steps to curb or even stop the cheating? Most of us would certainly not allow a lover to treat us the way our government treats its people. We would be crazy to allow a lover or spouse to treat us that way. So why do we let our government treat us this way?