In effect, he says, "my present will . . . does not wish to identify itself with what the fault has made of me" (page 88).
Perhaps the hardest part of what Lavelle says is the part about identifying through my free choice with the person(s) involved with the fault committed against me has made of me what I am today -- a wounded person. The fault committed against me has wounded me. As a result of being wounded, I have suffered a certain loss of vitality. Despite the loss of vitality that I have suffered, and may still be suffering further from in my ongoing life, Lavelle says that I can overcome my wound by identifying with the person who committed the fault against me that resulted in the wound.
No doubt this is easier said than done, especially if I am an old dog who can't learn new tricks.
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