I personally have never felt closely linked to the abortion issue. My wife and I are DINKs (Double-Income, No-Kids), but it has been a big issue to a lot of people since Roe v. Wade.
Personally, I think the whole thing is about power. If the Pro-Lifers really cared about children, they wouldn't be so quick to send them off to dumb wars. But, it all hinges on who gets to do what.
See, there are two camps. There are those whose handiwork in the backseat produced more than they expected. Billy Bob and Susie Q come up pregnant and they feel honor-bound or guilt-ridden or shamed into doing "the right thing." It could be argued that Billy Bob and Susie Q are simply so egotistical that they think their progeny matters (how "special" can your blessed event be, when there are 6 billion others just like it?), but that's another issue. Suffice to say, they proceed to throw away their chances at a successful, productive future doing what they want to do and end up in the unwinnable race for "respectability."
In the other camp are those who also found their fertility to be more pronounced than they expected. They, however, have the good sense to realize their mistake and choose not to perpetuate it. They fix the problem while it is fixable; they cut their losses and move on. The people in this camp get to pursue their educations and go into careers they care passionately about and live lives that make them happy.
Needless to say, the folks who have ended up on the losing end, because they did "the right thing," are sore about it and want everyone else to share their misery. The losers want to become winners and, in the process, send those uppity single women to the back of the line. So, they bomb women's clinics. They chain themselves to fences. And, now, according to the latest issue of Mother Jones, they've started using fronts (just like organized crime) to buy women's clinics and turn them into horror houses, to scare women into not getting abortions, which translates into lives of poverty and added costs to social services for you and me.
And, apparently, the Pro-Lifers have begun to assemble an army of women who have had abortions and who are now publicly mourning and grieving the "murder" of their unborn children.
So, OK; let's take them seriously.
The way the law is set up, if you are a participant in a crime and a murder occurs while in commission of that crime, you are considered as guilty of murder as the one who pulled the trigger. So, let's start sending police officers and District Attorneys to the homes of these grieving women. Let's start taking their confessions to murder. Let's start prosecuting and convicting them of 1st Degree Murder. Then, we can sentence them to life in prison or, where applicable, to the death penalty.
Then, we'll see a backlash. Women will start saying it was legal for them to abort their fetuses.
And, the issue will be over.