*Has arrogant behaviors or attitudes. ("f*ck your feelings!" "Snowflakes!")
After having this revelation, I consulted Dr. Google and realized, like most revelations, this was not an unprecedented thought. In fact, there is an entire, fascinating entry on Wikipedia on something called "Collective narcissism" that describes Trump's base to a T.
In an article from Washington Post, co-author and researcher Agnieszka Golec de Zavala, who has highlighted and studied collective narcissism,defines it as such:
"Collective narcissism is a lot like individual narcissism in that it involves emotional dependence on others' admiration. The difference is that collective narcissists seek privilege and recognition for groups they belong to. They constantly monitor their environment for validation and are hypersensitive to threats to the in-group's image.
"Collective narcissists' default reaction to having the in-group image threatened is inter-group aggression. When the in-group is, in their view, criticized or insufficiently recognized, collective narcissists attack back and rejoice in the out-group's misfortunes.
"Collective narcissists are also prejudiced toward groups they perceive as threatening. For instance, Polish collective narcissists who endorsed conspiracy theories about Jewish efforts to undermine Poland evaluated Jews more negatively."
Agnieszka Golec de Zavala's article was written in 2017, and there, through a fascinating study and its analysis, she links Trump's followers to this concept of "collective narcissism."
Political psychologist Jerrold Post coined the idea of a symbiotic relationship between narcissist and this group:
"An important characteristic of the leader-follower relationship are the manifestations of narcissism by both the leader and follower of a group. [18] Within this relationship there are two categories of narcissists: the mirror-hungry narcissist, and the ideal-hungry narcissist -- the leader and the followers respectively. [18] The mirror-hungry personality typically seeks a continuous flow of admiration and respect from his followers. Conversely, the ideal-hungry narcissist takes comfort in the charisma and confidence of his mirror-hungry leader. The relationship is somewhat symbiotic; for while the followers provide the continuous admiration needed by the mirror-hungry leader, the leader's charisma provides the followers with the sense of security and purpose that their ideal-hungry narcissism seeks. [18] Fundamentally both the leader and the followers exhibit strong collectively narcissistic sentiments--both parties are seeking greater justification and reason to love their group as much as possible."
Sound familiar?
I've been pondering this, though, from an individual point of view. How are people encouraged to deal with narcissists? You can't treat them. You can't teach empathy. You can't cure them. While many suggestions from many psychologists and self-help experts exist, one of them I come across time and time again in both anecdotes and the interwebs is to sever ties with them. Do not play into their delusions. Do not attempt to argue with them. Call them out, sure -- and sever all ties. That, to me, seems like really the only way forward with an entire group of narcissists.
And guess what? We're seeing that plan in action already, and it works. Government-employed kleptomaniac Scott Pruitt cited attacks on him as a reason he stepped down as head of the EPA, only days after being publicly confronted by a brave mama holding her child. Manboys with MAGA hats cry into their pillows because nobody wants to date gross Trump supporters. Dead-inside Sarah Huckabee Sanders boo-hoos because she was asked to leave the Red Hen, human-shaped ghoul Kirstjen Nielsen is shocked protesters would chase her from her Mexican food, and all Trump's minions whine about civility (for me, not for thee, of course).
And news broke today that Stephen Miller threw 80 bucks' worth of sushi in the garbage because a bartender at the restaurant displayed his two middle fingers at him. Why is "they don't like me and my feelings are hurt" BS from Trumpians even news? Because underneath their tough, braggadocious exteriors, they are marshmallows and they are hurt by even the tiniest bit of criticism. Resistance, protest -- it works, folks, and it's all we have. So call them out. Shun them. Sever all ties. Don't give them your business. Don't serve them food. Don't reward their behaviors and their abhorrent beliefs with anything except ridicule and absolute rejection.
There's no use for logic or empathy when you're dealing with a delusional sect of a country that is sprinting toward a fascist 'Merica. It's not just Trump who is a narcissist beyond help, it's everyone who still follows him. Do yourself a favor and give them all a view of your gorgeous middle fingers.
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