Membership in a political party is a hard habit to break, even after the party lets you down and betrays you.
Yesterday I was at the gym, having finished showering and shaving, towelling myself dry, standing in a section of the locker room. It has lockers on three sides with a bench in the middle and enough room to stand up and turn around between the benches and lockers. That's the way locker rooms tend to be built. THere was another guy at about the same stage of getting dress as I. Along comes a third guy, coat still on, and he walks up to our aisle of the locker room. He sees both of us, filling up the aisles, but he keeps walking. It's clear that he has a favorite locker in this aisle. I can relate to him. If the aisles are clear, I have one too, in a different aisle than I'm using that day. But when the locker room is crowded, it just let go of my habit and go to my second choice, or third, and actually, yesterday, I actually went to my fourth choice.
I could see in this guy's eyes he was struggling with his locker habit. The other guy drying himself off and I, stood unmoving, as this guy with the coat still on gave us a once over. It became clear we weren't thrilled with the idea of getting cramped with another guy when enough other locker aisles were open. There was this pregnant pause, and then, the guy with the coat almost visibly shrugged his shoulders as he let go of his habit and moved to another aisle.
And it made me think about Republicans who have spent their whole lives thinking of themselves as conservatives, voting Republican, and how hard it must be for them to let go of their self image of being Republican, even when their party has become a toilet of filthily corrupted, unpatriotic extremist politicians whose primary loyalty is to corporations and extreme right wing religious fanatics and government parasite frauds.
Changing a little habit like a locker gives a moment's pause. Changing the lifetime habit, perhaps even the multigenerational habit of affiliation to a party. Some people define themselves by their political affiliation. Some define themselves by their aversion to and contempt for the other party. They have heroes who represent their party "habit." They have a community of friends built around their party "habit." They have builty their world "story," their perception or construction of reality upon their party "habit."
This is a hard thing to change.
But people do it. A lot of people who WERE Democrats did change their party over the last thirty years. They did it, very often, because their church eased the way, creating a new story, new vision of reality, new community-- a new habit.
Today, a lot of people who were seduced by the right wing "drug" composed of sound bites of lower taxes, god's way, anti-big government, tax-and-spend liberals, marriage penalty tax, death taxes, etc., are waking up. They are smelling the coffee-- the stink of corruption coming out of Washington. They are seeing that Bush flat out lied about the WMD in Iraq, broke the law by spying on American Citizens for no good reason, since he could have gotten court approval after the fact.
Reality is conflicting with their right wing habit. But reality is not enough. Denial is so powerful. Ben Franklin said that the great thing about rationalization is you can rationalize anything.
These people smelling the coffee, seeing reality that clashes with the story they've been accustomed to embracing and living, need more than reality to change, to move away from the right, from the extremist republican party they now realize is not what they thought it was.
They need help. I must confess that as the truth about how truly horrible the Bush administration is has come out, I've had the urge to tell these right wingers what stupid idiots, what traitorous dupes and fools they are.
But that won't help. And they need help. They need to keep seeing the TRUTH and they need help finding small ways to take small steps away from the extreme right wing precipice they've been lured to.
They need help, handholding, that enables them to tell the people they elected to back off from the precipice of right wing religious extremism. They need gentle help looking the lies they are being forced to face straight on.
I've been working, as a counselor, for decades with people who have a hard time just smiling at themselves in the mirror. People tend to be so self critical. We need to help these people wrestle with the reality that they have been betrayed, in a sense, raped and abused by the politicians they trusted.
Victims of sexual abuse by family members often spend their lives suffering, in denial. There are some similarities here.
We have to help these victims of political party abuse to become strong enough to face their abusers. To take them to task, to take them to court, to do the right thing. BUt this is not easy. We on the left must start a conversation about how to do it. Don't depend on the Democrat party. But it will take a village and probably a serious, concerted effort by numerous progressive policy advocacy think tanks. Too bad there are only one or two and they are underfunded.
I think, it is a very good idea, very thoughtful and right. The only issue is whether the disease is only starting or it is already in peak. The drug- addict needs help at the start and he needs to be confined if he is already dangerous. That is why it is important to open the People's Front and invite all people there. Help can only be provided on your turf, not on theirs.
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Mark Sashine (72 articles, 19 quicklinks, 269 diaries, 4101 comments [131 recommended, 0 rejected]) on Friday, Jan 20, 2006 at 10:22:23 AM
I love the smell of my coffee. And it taste like success. But, that could all change in the upcoming elections. Of course there are alot of things that piss me off about the republicans but I still vote for them because of lower taxes and they fact they that will send as many terrorist to see there 72 virgins as soon as possible. If ya'll would get a candidate that I thought would protect the USA and
not raise taxes, I would vote for them.
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doug andrews (0 articles, 0 quicklinks, 0 diaries, 11 comments) on Saturday, Jan 21, 2006 at 6:17:10 PM
poison smells good sometimes ( to the author of the 'coffee
There are people in this world as there always had been who think that if they vote for someone, that someone will care for them. And they also think that their voting means success. Such people are hopeless and they don't need help. If the person really thinks that this government is his and that it takes care of him the way he wants it, let him have it. When his beloved gov't gets him and sends him to the ' 72 virgins' or to Davey Jones, whatever he prefers, let him convince the goons that they were making a mistake. Some people deserve their coffee which smells like one but is really poison. A sucker is born every day.
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Mark Sashine (72 articles, 19 quicklinks, 269 diaries, 4101 comments [131 recommended, 0 rejected]) on Monday, Jan 23, 2006 at 8:24:51 AM
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