With Valentine's Day almost upon us, here is some wisdom about love... From an unusual source--Horses!!
5 THINGS HORSES TEACH US ABOUT LOVE
1. In today's volatile world, as well as business environments, unmanaged stress can lead to depression and anxiety. Being in the presence of horses can alleviate that. Horses, unless provoked, live in a state of satiation. They are able to self-regulate themselves. When we are with them, we can also self-regulate, become more content, and allow for connection. Such connection can enlarge feelings of awe, gratitude and, yes, even love.
2. Horses allow us the space and freedom to focus on Emotional Intelligence skills--soft skills such as listening and noticing. Such self exploration often leads to a greater sense of freedom, openness and love.
3. Horses help us to not react, not get caught up in drama, and to be in the moment, present with our feelings. Unconditional positive regard for the horses, as well as for ourselves and those around us, can enlarge our sense of love. As we view these exquisite animals with kindness, our capacity for compassion deepens. We increase positive neural connections--resulting in deeper love.
4. Horses take time to play, rest, roll, run. Self care is paramount for us. Mother Teresa said to "Do small things with great love." As we tend gently to our own self care, it is a powerfully loving act.
5. When horses are distracted, they focus on the momentary distraction, and then they return to grazing. We need to do "the next right thing" and then return to a state of openness, non-judgment, and curiosity. Loves thrives in such an environment.
Finally, horses woo us to linger, to slow down, to stop. They desire us to just be. Not do. Be. With them. In love.
Mindy Chernoff, B.A., M.A, E3A Practitioner, Eponaquest Apprentice provides a novel and innovative approach to healing, using horses at her Newtown Square horse farm as a context for promoting self-esteem and a sense of competence with children and adults of diverse backgrounds. With over 55 years experience with horses and 31+ years in addiction recovery, she brings mindfulness into play with her clients, all the while interacting with horses and the peaceful environment. In her experience with both children and adults, she uses animals to foster personal growth and transformation. Within a safe environment, which she has called “The Resonant Horse,” together with the horse, she explores areas of resistance, fear, discomfort, love and acceptance. Mindy feels every life lesson can be learned in the barn.
Mindy’s primary goal is to build upon each individual’s positive traits, encouraging a sense of calm, contentment, and freedom to let go. Her sessions vary in length and focus, depending on the needs and desires of the client.
Horses, in particular, evoke a strong sense of authenticity in those who interact with them, and in the horse’s environment a client is inclined to slow down, notice, feel and heal. By being in close proximity to horses, under the supervision of a trained mentor, stress levels often diminish. One typically experiences deep levels of inner awareness of his/her feelings and desires.
Mindy is a published writer and has facilitated workshops for diverse audiences, such as teenage unwed mothers, and with the Archdiocese of Wilmington. She has also presented workshops at Pendle Hill and at an International Conference in Chicago. Her postgraduate training includes study in mindfulness meditation and executive leadership training.
Mindy offers individual sessions at the farm, as well as family and group workshops and retreats. She also offers Executive and Corporate Leadership Training, building on E.I. skills.
When not attending to clients, Mindy can be found riding "Viton" her Pinto Congress two-time champion.
In her spare time, she designs and creates jewelry.