First published June 9, 2015 at whenjohnnyandjanecomemarching.weebly.com/blog
War trauma. Rape trauma. Trauma from other kinds of violence, poverty, oppression. Trauma from automobile, train, bus, and airplane accidents. Trauma from natural disasters.
In some cultures, the community considers itself responsible for helping traumatized people deal with the trauma, reconnect with the community, and find meaning and delight in their lives. In too many cultures, we ship traumatized people off, telling them that their anguish is mental illness and to talk to therapists -- and please close door behind you, so we don't have to hear about it -- and take their drugs.
Starting June 10, every three days up to the Fourth of July, a Public Service Announcement with the message "Listen to a Veteran!" will be rolled out on Facebook (When Johnny and Jane Come Marching Home page) and Twitter (Paula J Caplan).
We need to go beyond "Thank you for your service." We need to stop believing the myth that all veterans are mentally ill and that therefore only therapists can help...and that therefore there is nothing anyone else can do, so they can just turn away.
It is an important civic responsibility, whatever the veteran's politics and whatever the nonveteran's politics, for every nonveteran just to listen to a veteran -- in Veterans Homes, other nursing homes, hospice facilities, on campuses, in social and community and faith-based settings. Ninety-three percent of Americans are military-illiterate, having never served. And even more of us are war-illiterate. As citizens, when we decide whether to support or oppose the next war and the next and the next, we need to know viscerally what that means, and the most valuable way to learn is by listening to a veteran. Nonveterans who have done a listening session tell us -- listen2veterans.org -- that the listening has transformed their lives for the better, creating an important connection with a veteran, destroying the negative stereotypes they believed about veterans, and in hearing how the veteran confronted matters of life and death and moral angush, learned about the veteran's humanity and about their own.
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