The World Health Organization (WHO) has issued a statement implicating traditional masculine values as inimical to good health. The painful psychological costs of the old, patriarchal world order, is asserting itself again in our lives. We therapists must explicitly declare traditional masculinity a health hazard, not just to men, but to the families who live with them. We should continue to develop techniques for openly challenging toxic patriarchal notions. Democratic relationships simply work better than hierarchical ones in marriages, and both sexes are better off liberated from the dance of contempt.