(reprinted with permission from One Planet Magazine, Jan. 2008 edition)
by Meryl Ann Butler
The Washington Family
History shows that high profile couples in deeply connected, soulful partnerships can empower the world through the ripple effect of their relationships, raising their roles of leadership to enhance the greater good.
When two people mutually empower each other, they are honoring self as well as the other and have a deeper ability to appreciate each other’s dreams and aspirations. And they are eager to celebrate each other’s successes. These attitudes spring from each partner’s worldview, are supported by an outlook that focuses on joy and wellbeing rather than fear and lack, and invite the happiness and empowerment that many couples, presidential or not, have experienced in successful relationships.
Rev. Ronald McFadden  says that “the difference between united and untied is in where you place the ‘I.” Effectively enhancing self-empowerment in others begins by honoring one’s own sense of connection: the “I” must be placed up front. This is the deeper truth within the flight attendants’ reminders to “place the cup over your own mouth FIRST, before assisting others.” Ironic, as it may appear, attending first to one’s self, results in being self-less rather than selfish!
Couples who consciously make this choice invite the magic of synchronicity to dance into their everyday experience. So-called miracles present themselves more often than we could ever expect. However, if we are not “tuned in” to their frequencies, these phenomena simply don’t show up on our radar. As Sir Winston Churchill said, “Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing ever happened.”
Centered and balanced couples often report experiencing miraculous timings, “chance” meetings, or love at first sight. For instance, when young Jimmy Carter  returned from his first date with 17-year-old Rosalyn Smith , his mother asked him how it went. He responded that he knew that she was the girl he wanted to marry.