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Why They Stayed: Domestic Violence Is Over-hyped - According To FOX ... And Your Local Minister

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We should also point out, after that video -- and now you know what happened in there -- she still married him,' host Steve Doocy explained. 'They are currently married.'

'Rihanna went back to Chris Brown right after [he assaulted her],' co-host Brian Kilmeade noted. 'A lot of people thought that was a terrible message.'

'I think the message is take the stairs,' he added, as co-host Anna Kooiman giggled.

'The message is, when you're in an elevator, there's a camera,' Doocy concluded.

The message that most viewers got, however, was that Steve Doocy and Brian Kilmead are jerks.

That latest FOX discourse created a firestorm. And rightfully so. Doocy and Kilmeade were making light of a serious matter (although in their "non-apology" they say they weren't). Many people thought that they were victimizing the victim and portraying Janay Palmer as a woman who forgave her (then future) husband for the beating. After all, she married him, didn't she?

Is Marriage A Sign Of Forgiveness?

Some say it is, but people who have studied and/or experienced domestic violence say that marriage sometimes condones the violence. And as with marriage, women stay in abusive relationships for many reasons.

#Why Is Stayed is the reaction of Beverly Gooden (see below). The reasons why women stay in abusive relationships:

1. Financial
2. Family (children)
3. Love of Spouse (concern for spouse's reputation or concern for spouse getting arrested)
4. Hope that spouse can change
5. Fear for her life (and the lives of her children)
6. Fear of being socially ostracized (culturally - not submissive enough)

Interestingly enough, one of the other reasons has not been widely discussed: "my minister told me to stay."

Pray Away The Hurt

It is no secret that even in today's world, we still have clergy who insist that women stay in a relationship no matter how abusive. It's all part of God's plan being a submissive wife and all. Certainly Pastor Mark Driscoll (see OpEdNews Aug. 25th) would agree to that. So would Rambo Jesus. So would Pat Robertson.

And so would Rick Warren:

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