- Don Henley
When Don Henley released the song "The Boys of Summer" in 1984, I had just begun my senior year in high school and life was exciting. With a long-term girlfriend, I was exploring what it was like to be in a relationship. My unrestricted driver's license was brand new and I could now make plans without having to rely on my mother for transportation. My band, in which I was the drummer, was taking the first steps towards turning noise into music and my school notebooks were peppered with lyrics for songs that were waiting to be written. While I planned to move on to college, I dreamed of becoming a rock star.
The complex rhythms of the drum machine on Henley's song made for the perfect soundtrack for the time. I was in the spring of my life and looking forward to the summer. "Don't look back, you can never look back" was taken as a cautionary statement to make sure to live life to its fullest. As the Butthole Surfers would later write: "It's better to regret something you have done, than to regret something that you haven't done." This was a song full of optimism.
My youngest children are now older than I was when I first heard this song. Summer has passed and I am now in the fall of my life. I played this song yesterday and found that it has lost its optimism. Instead, I find it to be intensely sad. It is still a cautionary tale, but one about avoiding the trap of regret. "Don't look back, you can never look back" speaks more about the inability to change the past than molding the future.
Like most high-school relationships, my girlfriend and I found out long ago that our love was fleeting. Then my first wife and I learned the same lesson. It has been a few years since I last sat behind my drum kit and even longer since I wrote anything resembling a song lyric. Dreams of rock stardom faded away a long time ago.
- The Ataris