If a mass killing perpetrated by a deeply disturbed misogynist does not make us look at how our society perpetuates and extends violence against women, I am not sure what will. Our culture has always looked the other way or even validated gendered violence, particularly against African-American women. Yet in an era of lightning-fast cultural transmission, this historic violence seems to be both mutating and becoming more dangerous before our eyes. It's a violence that seems to exist in its own cultural category, where it is not only excused but also treated as deeply humorous--and woe to anyone who says otherwise. It's a violence that has become so normalized, so all encompassing, that it feels like doing nothing becomes an act of complicity.
It does not take any sort of genius to draw a line in between the weekend's shooting, the torments faced by Marissa Alexander or other women who defend themselves and the fact that the quickest way to invite a barrage of social media hate is to say simply, "I don't think rape jokes are funny." These dots connect to create a gun pointed at the ability of women to possess the most elemental human right in what is supposed to be a free society: the right to be left alone.
As a sportswriter, I try to look at the ways in which violence against women is excused and glossed over in professional sports, sending messages to their young, male audiences that this is somehow just part of being like their game-time heroes. This weekend, the day before the shooting, saw yet another one of those moments that should make the National Football League burn with shame, and take account for the role they play in creating this culture.
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Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice and his wife Janay Rice held a press conference to apologize and explain why Rice was caught on camera dragging his wife by the hair from a casino elevator after punching her into unconsciousness. The Rices were basically throwing themselves on the mercy of the court of public opinion. That is nothing new, and we have seen male athletes and their wives do this before. What was different, the at first bizarre and then obscene part of this spectacle, was when it became clear that the Ravens official twitter account was live-tweeting the press conference. What they chose to tweet speaks volumes. After sending out a series of 140-character banalities to the half-million followers about how sorry Ray Rice was that he let down the team, the Ravens owner and everyone, and how he was going to come back better than ever, the Ravens official twitter account sent the the following: "@Ravens Janay Rice says she deeply regrets the role that she played the night of the incident."
Yes, she really did communicate this and, yes, it is tragic that a woman knocked unconscious and dragged by her hair by a heavily muscled pro athlete felt compelled to effectively say that she was in any way at fault. It is even worse that the team live-tweeted such a comment, attempting to do its part to shape the court of public opinion and "Ravens Nation" to welcome Ray Rice back into the fold. This is the Ravens not seeing that maybe there are things more important than defending their product. This is, of course, as I've written before, far more than a Ravens issue but symptomatic of a league-wide problem in the way the NFL disregards violence against women. Or, as Tomas Rios wrote for Sports on Earth, "A woman has publicly sided with her abuser before, but the collusion between athlete and team to impose a feel-good narrative of personal redemption on the public sends a horrifying message. "
That tweet, and the entire approach to the NFL on this question, is to me the difference between violence against women and what it means to have a culture of violence against women. The violence is what Ray Rice did to Janay Rice. The culture is a team--and a league--that thinks rehabbing the images of players who project the violence of their game on the women in their lives is no more than a public relations problem. This is no different than the connective tissue between the act of rape and rape culture. Just as rape is a crime and rape culture is when the crime is disregarded and mocked or when it happens at a party and fifty people pretend not to see what is happening, violence against women excused is ensuring that violence will occur again. This is also why people who say "not all men" commit rape or violence against women don't understand what it will actually take to resign these pathologies to the dustbin of history. It is a collective responsibility that men either take seriously, or risk becoming part of the problem.
The high rates of violence against the wives and girlfriends of pro athletes have a multiplicity of causes, but when the league institutionally either ignores it or provides set pieces to somehow justify it, this ceases to be an individual or athletic problem and becomes one that seeps into our pores and poisons every part of our culture. We saw what happened over the weekend, when that poison is weaponized.
[Dave Zirin is the author of the forthcoming book "Brazil's Dance with the Devil" (Haymarket) Receive his column every week by emailing email@example.com. Contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org.]