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My Ultra-Conservative Neighbor Just Shovelled My Driveway

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About six years ago, I moved back to the area where I grew up, after living away for a very long time. I returned to take care of my 90 year-old mother after my stepfather suddenly passed away.

My mother was pretty close with one of her neighbors, although they had virtually nothing in common. My mother was a Jewish, New Deal Democrat. The neighbor, a fundamentalist, arch-conservative. And Bonnie (the neighbor), is extremely religious. But not radically so. She is just very, very involved in her Church, and her life revolves around her devotion to Jesus, the way one would imagine only those living in the Bible-Belt would be, except Bonnie lives in New Jersey. She cleans people's homes, and has continued to do so after her husband passed away shortly before I moved back.

Bonnie is also a lifelong Republican, who voted for Donald Trump. Since moving home, I've had the opportunity to get to know Bonnie better (particularly since my mother's own passing last year). I live alone, so she's invited me over for Thanksgiving, New Year's, etc., and we've taken long walks together.

She's also the person who drove me home from the hospital, to the doctor appointments, pharmacy and supermarket, after each of the two biking accidents I had recently.

Bonnie's well aware that not only am I pretty left-wing, but that I also meditate for hours a day, and am pretty heavily into Eastern religion and philosophy. But I guess she is old enough (70), and mature enough, to not to get all bent out of shape about it. We've spoken about many things, at great length, and she is quite clear that I do not accept Jesus as the only begotten Son of God, without whom I can never really be saved.

But, her son (who lives in her house with his girlfriend) just snow-blew my entire sidewalk and driveway.

Now, I'm pretty healthy for an older geezer. And they've seen me shoveling my own driveway myself (it takes a while. But I manage...).

So, I think this is a pretty extraordinary act of human kindness, coming from someone who probably fits the rather narrow stereotype of everything we smart, sophisticated types are supposed to have a considerable amount of contempt regarding.

To be clear, I think Bonnie started to sour on Trump even before the election. She has recently said things like "I don't think he's that bright" and, she wasn't crazy about all of the affairs. But, she hasn't exactly switched parties, either...

So, I was just pretty, genuinely moved by the shoveling, and wanted to share.

Just what it all means, frankly, I'm still not quite sure...

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This is actually a comment made on this article on another web site:

The Liberal/Conservative Paradox

In my experience conservative folks are generally more kind, welcoming and caring in person, than your typical liberal.

Take the average New Yorker. Left leaning, dem voting, don't talk to their neighbours, and will happily give you a piece of their mind.

Head to the Carolinas and hey, everyone's just as nice as pie.

I think partly this has to do with population density. The New Yorker has to think socially. He's part of a metropolis built on shared services and infrastructure. But one thing they don't need more of is people. What they crave is privacy. When they get home they just want to shut the world out.

Meanwhile conservatives tend to live in less densely populated places. Here services are few and far between so you need to be self-dependent. Thus the need to think socially is greatly reduced. What they do count on is friends and family. When something needs doing they don't look to government they look to their community. Meantime you're not overwhelmed with humanity every time you leave the house so chatting with folks, giving them the time of day isn't the chore it is to a city dweller.

Of course there are things like medicare that everyone needs. But it seems conservatives get more suspicious of something the greater the number of people involved, regardless of the personal benefits they gain.

So no, I'm not the least surprised your conservative neighbours cleared your drive. And after all, it gave the guy a chance to play with his snow blower!

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And here is my brief reply as well as his response to that:

Thanks, buddy! Nicely put, indeed! But I do live in the suburbs of New Jersey. Would that change anything? Thanks again.

Certainly tests my theory...

But, I'd say the population density metric is pretty highly geared. Soon as you're out of the city it starts to kick in. I just moved out of central London to the Home Counties. I'm still just 25 miles to Picadilly Circus but, unlike London, folks here all vote right and are friendly as hell. All a bit scary for a city dweller! My missus is a total misanthrope who thought she'd get more privacy heading out to the boonies, but nah.

We spent the previous 5 years in a nice building with 9 other apartments, shared a entrance and stairwell with about 20 other folks. Barely spoke to any of them and certainly didn't know them. Within a week of arriving out here we know everyone and they certainly seem to want to know us!

As I said to the missus, we've left the city and joined a community. That said, we had recent snow here and none of the buggers cleared our drive! I think Americans are just nicer ;)

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