Brian, like so many military brothers, sisters, spouses, children and parents, fell into the depths of depression following the death of his brother.
These difficulties in coping with his brother's death played out in Brian in his depression, dropping out of school, using alcohol and drugs, being in and out of drug rehab facilities, in continuing incidents with police for disorderly conduct and finally in suicide.
After the death of their son Alex in Iraq, Brian's father Carlos Arredondo and his stepmother Melida travelled the country reminding the public of those dying in America's wars on Iraq and Afghanistan -- Americans, Iraqis and Afghans. Brian had joined them at Veterans for Peace events and at Occupy Boston. The Arredondos are now embarked on a mission to better understand the suicides that are occurring in military families.
At the national Veterans for Peace (VFP) conference in Miami, Florida, on August 9, 2012, Carlos told VFP members that virtually each time they have spoken at public events about Brian's suicide, after the program, a member of the audience will tell them that they have had someone in their family who has attempted suicide or committed suicide. The Arredondos say that from their first speaking engagements following Brian's suicide, that they have found an epidemic of suicides and mental trauma in military families.
We know from statistics kept by the US military, Veterans Affairs and local law enforcement officials, that 18 veterans a day commit suicide.
Brian's death represents an unknown number of members of military families who have committed suicide and the United States military is not attempting to keep track of this aspect of the costs of war on families of military personnel.
In 2010, Deborah Mullen, the wife of the former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, said at the Military Health System annual conference, that she was shocked that military family member suicides are not being tracked by the military. She said ..."we are still discovering, still revealing, fissures and cracks in the family support system."
Mrs. Mullen said that "military families, not unlike our troops, experience the same depression, anxiety, sleeplessness, and headaches. They break into cold sweats ... lose concentration ... suffer panic attacks ... and come to dread contact with the outside world. Some lapse into what is known as "anticipatory grief."
As one spouse put it, "We're grieving as if they're already dead, and they're not."
Mrs. Mullen added...
"As a result, many spouses are unable even to get out of bed -- to get dressed, prepare meals, or leave the house. Some won't even get their children off to school, leaving the care of little ones to the hands of older siblings. In 2009 alone, 300,000 prescriptions for psychiatric drugs were provided to military dependents under the age of 18. Some are no doubt warranted, but I worry that we don't fully understand the long-term consequences of these medications."
Buttons featuring the likeness of fallen U.S. Marine Lance Cpl. Alexander S. Arredondo, left, and his brother Brian Luis Arredondo, right, who took his own life following the death of Alexander, are attached to an American flag in front of thousands of flags planted in the Boston Common, in Boston
Following are presentations of Carlos and Melida Arredondo at the Veterans for Peace National Convention, August 8-12, 2012.
Carlos Arredondo's Presentation:
"Thank you for inviting us to speak to the national convention of Veterans for Peace. As some might know, the South Florida chapter of Veterans for Peace is named after my eldest son, US Marine Lance Corporal Alexander Scott Arredondo who was killed in Iraq in 2004, seven-and-a-half years ago.
"Today, I am going to talk to you about both of my sons, both of whom are dead because of war.
"Less than eight months ago, our youngest son, Brian Luis Arredondo, age 24, hanged himself in a shed in the backyard of his Mother's property in Massachusetts.