"Marriage must represent for man the highest achievement of his purpose." from The Book of Marriage, by Count Hermann Keyserling
Marriage is much more than the result of falling into romance and seeing where it takes you. Marriage is a profound union of purpose that is often ignored in the aftermath of passion.
Falling in Love
I fell in love with my wife when we were sixteen years old. Falling in love is hard to explain. But there are photos of us during those high school days. In one photo, someone caught a shot of my face looking into her eyes. In the photo, you can only see my wife from the back. But my face appears full on. The look in my eyes is amazing. My eyes are sparkling. I am completely mesmerized. I have a look of pure enchantment. I was enchanted.
That summer my wife's family left the United States and moved to Israel. Our young love was devastated. We did not know if they were coming back. This was the summer before our senior year.
I was miserable. I ached for her. I literally had a constant pain in my chest, all that summer that would not go away. My heartache would not go away.
We married in April less than two weeks after our twentieth birthdays. This year will be our 40th wedding anniversary. But don't misunderstand me. Our married life has not been easy. We have separated a few times. Yet, each time the ache returned. My heartache would return.