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Girls and Women Should NOT Be the Gold Standard for Judging Boys and Men

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Duluth, Minnesota (OpEdNews) January 11, 2014: In the 1956 Broadway musical My Fair Lady, the character Professor Henry Higgins sings the song "Why Can't a Woman Be More Like a Man?"


Ever since the rise of second-wave feminism in the 1960s and 1970s, many feminists -- including not only female feminists but also male feminists as well -- have in effect been singing the song "Why Can't a Man Be More Like a Woman?"


At times, they may sing a variant of this song: "Why Can't a Boy Be More Like a Girl?"


Both men and women have observed that girls mature faster than boys do. Good for girls! Oftentimes, girls are more sensitive and express their feelings more readily than boys do. Good for girls!


Nevertheless, despite these widespread observations, it does not seem to me to be a good idea to compare boys' development to girls' development as though girls were the gold standard by which to judge boys.


However, in her tightly constructed argument in "American men's hidden crisis: They need more friends" at Salon Magazine online (dated Dec. 7, 2013), Lisa Wade seems to consider girls to be the gold standard by which to judge boys.


Now, I would say that second-wave feminism in the 1960s and 1970s did help precipitate a male identity crisis. This is why the title of Wade's article "American men's hidden crisis" caught my attention. While the subtitle of her article ("They need more friends") might sound as though she is going to argue against men being "loners," it turns out that she really means that men need more friendships of the sort that women commonly cultivate with other women. "Why Can't a Man Be More Like a Woman?"


Wade works with terminology that she credits to Geoffrey Greif: shoulder-to-shoulder friendships and face-to-face friendships.

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Thomas James Farrell is professor emeritus of writing studies at the University of Minnesota Duluth (UMD). He started teaching at UMD in Fall 1987, and he retired from UMD at the end of May 2009. He was born in 1944. He holds three degrees from Saint Louis University (SLU): B.A. in English, 1966; M.A.(T) in English 1968; higher education, 1974. On May 16, 1969, the editors of the SLU student newspaper named him Man of the Year, an honor customarily conferred on an administrator or a faculty member, not on a graduate student -- nor on a woman up to that time. He is the proud author of the book (more...)

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