There are many reasons why a couple would choose to end their relationship and proceed to a divorce. Studies have shown that the average length of the first marriages ending in divorce is about six years. Here are some reasons that lead to that situation.
Getting married at a young age
One of the most common problems that occur with couples in our day and time is getting married at a very young age. This happens due to a plethora of reasons and it's very common in our everyday lives. Most of the time marriages at young ages end up in divorce because these young adults don't have the experience and patience to make their marriage work. In fact, 46% of divorced couples in the US state that one of the main reasons for it was getting married too young.
It seems as if the more the world and the technology advances, the more people want to settle down and live normal lives. Young people who might be religious or who might have grown up in a home that didn't offer them a stable familial environment could possibly be seeking just that and oftentimes rush into marriage as a way of finally finding that stability and love they have been looking for their entire lives.
While there are many couples who get married young and end up spending the rest of their lives together, this is usually not the case. These people are too young and too inexperienced and they haven't lived enough on the outside world in order to be able to put their personal lives aside and fully devote their time and energy into starting a family.
While in the past many young couples stayed together, the reason was that divorces weren't as easy to obtain and there were social repercussions coming with a divorce. People today have it a lot easier when it comes to going their separate ways and that's a big reason why divorces are such a common phenomenon.
Marrying for the wrong reasons
Apart from being too young to get married, there are many reasons why a marriage can end in a divorce. One of them definitely has to be marrying for the wrong reasons. First and foremost, a situation that very usually happens in our day and time is marrying for money. While people might believe that they have found their golden ticket when marrying someone financially stable, in fact, they might have found their golden ticket to the quickest divorce possible.
A marriage that happens for the wrong reasons never lasts and there are many reasons why. First of all, there is no love between the couple. No matter how hard you try to love someone, you will never be able to achieve these strong feelings if there was no initial spark. Many people might confuse their initial excitement with love but in many cases, people just see what they want to see in a person and end up in relationships that don't fulfill them at all.
Money surely can't buy love and while being financially stable can make you feel independent, it can surely not make you happy. If the person you're with doesn't make you feel in love, cherished and protected, it will be very easy for you to continue staying in that marriage.
Lack of communication in relationships
Something that is very commonly heard in relationships that go south is that there was a total lack of communication between the couple. Being able to communicate is crucial for a number of reasons but first and foremost it shows your respect for the person you're with.
When couples stop talking to each other, they give enough space for problems to start to form. Disagreements and misunderstandings can become a usual habit in the relationship and it won't take long before the two people aren't able to be anywhere together without ending up in a fight.
The problem here is usually that the couple either doesn't set up proper communication rules or that they get too caught up in the problems around them and stop turning to their significant other for comfort. While our everyday lives can be tough and we might be going through difficulties, t is always important that we talk about our problems, our achievements and our opinions to our partners.
There are quite a few simple ways to avoid this situation though and one of the simplest ones is to simply write down your thoughts, your fears, and disappointments to your beloved one and let them know how you feel. Even if you're not the best writer, there are services which can help you put your thoughts together and express yourself in the way that you wish.
Having unrealistic expectations
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