But if we become dependent and reliant on apps to make our decisions for us, if we look to them first before we look inside ourselves in terms of showing us where we should be going, what sorts of experiences we should be having, who we should be interacting with, then we say that's using apps and technology in an app dependent way. So there's that distinction where one is more agential, and the other one you're giving up your agency.
H.G.: Also if I could just add here if you go to any kind of a site for suggestions about what to do, the assumption ought to be that you're getting things straight from the people who use the site but we now know there's an enormous amount of manipulation that goes on, some of it trying to cater to your taste, but others people just sending lots of stuff in. I mean, our book has just been available on Amazon for a brief period of time and there are just a couple of reviews there and as far as I know these are genuine reviews; on the other hand I recently got a note from a colleague's spouse sent to hundreds of people saying please rate this book favorably because it's very important, and that's fairly amateurish but you know, if you have a lot of disposable income it's probably quite easy to manipulate those ratings and then you're dependent not only on the app but on knowing that it has been manipulated. And that's kind of frightening to me.
R.K.: Absolutely. Katie mentioned Yelp and I use Yelp a lot but what I've learned is if you just typed in search for a restaurant nearby, you don't get them in order of which ones are the closest, they could miles away and it could be number one and I think it's because they sell advertising.
It's just like if you go to Google and do a search, the first couple ones are paid results and then the rest of the results come afterwards. So what I've learned with Yelp in particular is I have to go in to the filtering settings and say "I want this in order of distance from where I am" and I think there are a lot of apps like that, you really don't even know.
Part of the matter of holding on to our agency with apps is understanding how apps work and controlling the apps even, but I do go way beyond that and you do go in to talking about the Three I's, let's go there with that. Katie?