"And please understand, I'm not singling you out, except to illustrate (to whomever might read this) a phenomenon that is all too common, in one variation or another. All women in America and most of the rest of the world, especially if they are as beautiful and youthful looking as you are, who are either unemployed or underemployed, or who are worried about how they are going to get by in old age, evaluate men on the basis of how much money and things a man can provide. And this is only natural, given the kind of society and economy we live in. Sadly, this is the way it's going to be in America until women's incomes are equal to men's, and everyone who's not rich has significantly more income and/or more access to basic things like decent housing, food, education and health care -- as in places like Scandinavia, Iceland and Holland.
"Of course most people, including you, don't want to think about any of this. It's too theoretical, too hypothetical, way too 'iffy' and 'out there' in the future. You folks are here-and-now people, totally pragmatic in getting what's best for you, now, and prefer to simply scapegoat each other and exploit each other instead of trying to understand the entire context and situation in which problems naturally and inevitably develop. But that's really so sad and so dumb from my point of view. Why so? Because so many love relationships fail by way of things like that which I've described in the foregoing story, the details and intricacies of which things most people prefer not to think about, simply because such things are too complicated and too painful for them to grasp -- or maybe just to theoretical, iffy, and far off in some possible future.
"In other words, from my perspective,
you folks prefer to remain blind and dumb, simply blaming each other instead, using each other for as long as possible to
fulfill your various needs. For you
folks, it's just easier that way. So,
when the breakup inevitably occurs, you guys never talk to each other again,
and certainly not about why you had to break up. Why not?
Because in each of your minds, the other person turned out to be the
creep who did you wrong or in some way let you down. And isn't it ironic that you both usually end
up feeling exactly the same way about your former partner. Such a mystery! Not."
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"1. Do you remember when I used to call you, not that long ago, and you would complain that I sounded rather distant? Once or twice you even scolded me for it, saying that as long as we've known each other and as close as we've become, why would I sound so distant?!
"I'll tell you why in just a second.
"2. But first here's a second question for you, which has an answer closely related to the first one: Why would I break into tears in your cottage, during one or two of my last visits there, and also at other times at my apartment, and also as I began to do after you last kissed me, just before I pulled away from your place in my van, which I had loaned to you for the past few months, always keeping the gas tank filled for you?
"The answer to the second question, about the tears, is simply this: I sensed that the end of our relationship was imminent.
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