What is your goal for the film?
"To help people, and use this film as the centerpiece of a movement focused on forgiveness and healing between mothers and daughters. So many people are in pain due to childhood trauma. It is so important to forgive. I teach people in my seminars how to do that."
You have stated, "The biggest gift you can give yourself is to forgive." It seems that you and your mother are now at peace with each other. How can other daughters learn from your example?
"I
forgave my mother by understanding her. I did that by digging into her past and
learning about what she suffered and endured in her own childhood. Then I was
able to reframe how I looked at her --from being my mother
who should love and adore me -- to a wounded child
who did the best she could. When she would send out a zinger again, it was
listening to a child knowing she was really hurting herself --
and not by reacting with anger or cowering. Eventually, by giving her love, I
rendered her abuse powerless over me."
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