You are indeed fortunate to love what you do. You mentioned earlier in the interview that you have a telephone counseling service for people. Tell us about that. Is it like a counseling hot line or something different entirely?
Joan, I am really proud of our Divorce Busting telephone coaching program. Years ago, people would call my office because they had had unsettling experiences when they sought marital help in their areas. Many therapists would declare couples' marriages dead on arrival after one session! These people felt that they were going to get help to repair their relationships and instead, therapists led them to divorce attorneys' offices. So, callers wanted names of therapists in their areas who worked the way I do.
Unfortunately, I didn't always know a colleague in other areas of the country. I worried that people would end up with a therapist who would lead them down a path of marital destruction. That's when I came up with the idea of choosing a few skilled therapists who were dedicated to helping people improve their marriages so they could stay together and keep their families intact, and train these therapists to do Divorce Busting work over the phone. This way people could get sound marriage-strengthening advice anywhere in the country. And mission accomplished! In fact, now my telephone coaches speak to people all over the world. We're very excited about that.
By the end of the first call, people have fresh ideas about how to proceed and they feel hopeful for the first time in a very long time. They follow the coaches suggestions and call again several times to report on changes and, if necessary, to tweak the plan until things are moving in the right direction. Many, many marriages have been saved with the help of Divorce Busting coaches and I am very proud of the work they do. Of course, not every marriage can be saved, and when a marriage end, the spouse calling feels relief in knowing that he or she has left no stone unturned, especially when there are children.
Anything that you'd like to talk about that we haven't covered yet, Michele?
I just want to let people know that it's never too late to try to save your marriage. Even if your spouse is having an affair, has left your home, tells you it is definitely over, is in the midst of a serious midlife crisis, says, "I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore," tells you that there is no passion in the marriage....there still is hope. I don't believe that people should stay in miserable marriages. Life is too short. I do believe that with what we now know about what it takes to have successful, passionate, loving marriages, there is no reason anyone wanting a better, more intimate, healthy marriage can't have one. Some people think I'm a psychotic optimist, but I say, "That's ok, it's a communicable disease."
I like that a lot - optimism as a communicable disease. We could all use more of it! Thanks so much for talking with me, Michele. It was a pleasure.
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