We've learned a lot through throughout the years. These articles on sexual abuse are a potent reminder.
So, what to do now?
Schedule a family meeting, make a telephone call, visit, send an email or text... whatever the method, communicate with those whose care is directly or indirectly in your charge. It's never too late! It's rarely an inopportune moment.
If you've got grandkids in private nursery care, talk to your children about closer monitoring. Have them or help them cover every base possible to ensure your grandchild is in a safe environment.
If your children are in elementary or middle school, become more involved. Make surprise visits to the school. Look for changes in your child's behavior that may signify potential danger alerts. If it's your grandchild, talk to your child. Help them to keep on top of things. Make suggestions, offer support.
Remember; younger children may not know what or how to communicate, or may be too scared. They may sense something's amiss, but not understand its implications.
College-aged students may be scared, intimidated or ashamed. They may feel you'll blame them for perceived indiscriminate behavior, whether valid or not. Refrain from being judgmental. You might think you have a totally open relationship... it's rarely 100%... no matter how positive you are.
Talk to your child. More important listen to what's being said... and read between the lines to hear what's not being said!
As a life coach, I've met time and again with parents who believe they are "totally in touch" with their child. Often, the more positive they are, the further off base are their beliefs.
I've coached college students who suffer from peer pressure, self despair, loneliness, free-floating anxiety and a host of symptoms of which their parents are totally unaware.
When the emotions are so strong, I'll recommend a psychologist or psychiatrist better equipped to help them through a rough period. Once symptoms are alleviated, I can step back in as a coach and help students pursue and achieve their goals.
The bottom line is this. It's the reason I wrote this article:
Awareness leads to prevention. Communication with family members strengthens bonds and supports integrated action to keep all family members both physically and mentally safe.
Don't let this opportunity slip by.
Set a goal for the coming week. Check in with those whom you care about most. Don't just accept the word "fine," when you ask how things are going. Become a master at subtle yet not-too-intrusive probing. It's your right and responsibility. Though it may cause short-term tension, it will cause long-term trust.
Many young people balk at "interference," but deep down appreciate the care and concern.
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