Extramarital affairs the men involved are older women are
often younger and unmarried. Now, if one can look beyond the glaring hot light
of society's strong taboo against incest one will see the father/daughter relationship.
In the symbiotic attachment, the younger woman
(daughter) finally gained the upper hand on the older woman (mother) the
daughter now have her first love (father) the older man. The childhood wish is
now complete. However, there is a price to pay for violating society's taboo
against (father/daughter) incest. Often it is the man who must pay in the form
of political, social, personal, and family embarrassments and public disgrace.
A great price to pay: and a form of punishment for being on the wrong side of
the incest taboo. Sometime the wayward individual themselves start the dominoes
that exposes the behavior.
As for women of power and women who seek out powerful men,
both are dancing to the same tune. But sex or power is not the driving force the
goal is to gain the love of the "father." However, the woman who is powerful
and the woman who seek powerful men take separate path to accomplish their
goals. The personality of the individual and the child within determine which
path taken.
The woman who seek powerful men most likely was "daddy's
little girl" as a child, she put her father on a pedestal, if there is tension
between mother and father she takes her father's position. However, deeply
repressed is her anger with your father for choosing another woman (mother)
over her but the hostility is unconscious she fear that if daddy learn her true
feeling he would reject her.
The women who seek power in her own right do not place men
(father) on pedestals or worship them in any significant way. Women who seek
power instead of powerful men do not have a strong desire for approval from men
(father) they are more comfortable competing with men. These women are not
"daddy's little girl" they attitude toward father-figure is more aggressive and
competitive.
However, do not be
misled these women of power are also seeking the love of the father. These
women also feel rejected and must compete with mother for father's love, but
they take a different approach. The women of power, as a child, reject the
"good girl, obedience mother" approach as a way to gain father's love. Instead,
they become more like the father, aggressive, demanding, authoritative, and seek
power as a tool to control and to achieve immediate gratification. These women
become their fathers.
Women with power, unlike men with power, seldom involved in
highly publicized sexual embarrassment. In fact, this behavior mirrors society
in general in which older women have little appetite for the seduction of
younger men. Women of power are not involved in public sexual embarrassment
involving younger men. Women who are
motivate to achieve power and authority as the ultimate goal of success may not
see sex as a premium to reach their goals.
S. Freud, 1924, The
Passing of the Oedipus-Complex
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