I am pleased that my May 9 article, "Russian rights and Estonian wrongs," has provoked a reaction, though disappointed that it was mostly to justify the Estonian government's use of violence against protesters, rather than to defend the rights of minorities.

In a democracy, minorities must feel that the state will not treat their identity as an automatic badge of disloyalty. Anyone who chances to read the Russian-language press in Estonia will see that many, though surely not all, who live there feel that this is not the case today. So different has been the coverage of events (and readers' comments) in the Russian and Estonian versions of leading newspapers like Postimees, that the two communities at times seem to share nothing but physical space.

But rather than dwell on the negative, I wish to highlight the compassion that some ethnic Estonians have shown toward their neighbors.

I was particularly moved by an article by Raul Kalev, owner of a public-relations firm, entitled, "Forgive, and Again Forgive (Postimees, May 9)." Getting right to the heart of the matter, he writes:

"What can we do to make integration effective? First, we must apologize to one another."

I apologize for all Estonians, and for our politicians. We failed to understand, and did not want to understand, that others could have sacred sites different from our own. I ask forgiveness that among us there are people who spread hatred of Russians. I ask forgiveness that we have not found a way to tell our history to the other peoples living in Estonia.

I appeal to the Russian-speaking population of Estonia. Find a way to show the Estonians that you are not provocateurs and do not approve of vandalism!

And, I would add one last piece of advice for the Estonian government. Why not apologize to all those who have lost confidence in tomorrow's Estonia? Why not make May 9 a holiday on our calendars, out of respect for all those people who visit the graves they consider sacred?"

If more people aspired to such sentiments, I suspect that the ethnic grievances that currently plague Estonian democracy would very quickly fade away.

NICOLAI N. PETRO

Kingston