We all seem to be striving for this concept called 'happiness' but what is it really? After all, how many people do you know who are truly happy?
What does it take to be 'happy' for more than just a brief or transient period? Until we can answer these questions we are effectively 'stabbing in the dark', going from one thing to another hoping to find that elusive goal!
How can we ever hope to achieve it if we don't know what it is? But where do we start?
An Experiment in Happiness
OK - Happiness - we all know about 'happiness', don't we?
Well, we all know it exists, and we all know that we are trying to achieve it - even if some of us have forgotten this - it is what we are reaching for, in whatever way we can, right?
But what is this 'elusive' thing called happiness - I mean, REALLY, what is it?
Think about that for a moment. If it was obvious we would all have it, right??! But, take a look around you; how many people do you see that are really happy?
Endless words have been written about it, books and films have been portraying it since time immemorial - people have lived whole lives searching for it and died in the name of it. But WHAT is it?
We all know that it's something we want - it's almost a foregone conclusion that it's what we are all striving for - but how many of us really know what it is, what it would take for us to be truly happy??
You might immediately think, 'Oh, it's love', or it's 'having children', or it's 'being healthy' or it's 'being rich' - and while those things may well contribute to your feeling of contentment - do they, in themselves, really bring happiness?? The answer to that must surely be 'No' otherwise there would not be so many unhappy people in the world.
Well, let's take a look at this from another angle then. Let's take a look at what is it that makes us UNHAPPY? I bet if you sat down for a few minutes and just listed out the things in life that you feel unhappy about it would be much easier to do - right?
OK - so, it's easier to list out all the things are make us unhappy - so let's start there!
Try this experiment - just make a list of all the things that upset you or make you unhappy. Don't hold out - just list out everything that you can think of.
Alright - now that you have your list in front of you - take each point on the list and work out what the OPPOSITE of that would be.