I am continually amazed how my clients heal themselves ~ once they are reminded that there is no such thing as an ugly soul and that quite often the people they have felt the greatest pain with are people they have deeply loved.
Most traumatic memories are associated with the separation ( real or imagined ) from love and whether it's separation, sexual abuse or emotional abuse, healing can only occur when love has been restored ~ for love not only lies deepest within each one of us but it is the ultimate self healing agent.
Once they take responsibility for love instead of denying love ~ their self healing can begin for now it's safe for the traumatic memories to come to the surface to be connected, delt with and eventually discarded ~ for now they truly feel they have another choice versus being a victim.
The reason I can move my clients very rapidly to another choice in just seven sessions is simply because they are healing themselves and I am providing the tools for that self healing to occur.
Let me briefly describe the sessions;
Session One - Finding the Child Within Yourself
I explain my role as your 'coach', and demonstrate how you can use childhood pictures to locate the child within yourself who closed their heart and emotionally stopped growing. The intent of this session is to touch the emotionally trapped child within yourself and begin the self-healing process. I accomplish this by sharing my own quest to find my trapped inner child and by utilizing the Cycle of Life to graphically illustrate how and why we separate from who we truly are.
Session Two - understanding Your Life as a Quest with a Lifechart
This session demonstrates how to use the homework from the first session (creating a Lifechart) to retrace the major events and relationships of your life in terms of feelings of joy versus feelings of pain and despair. Special emphasis is put on those relationships that profoundly touched your heart. You quickly begin to see your life as a Quest, rather than a struggle, when it becomes obvious that you have recreated your original childhood trauma with parental figures in your primary relationships in a subconscious attempt to reunite with the emotionally trapped child within.
Session Three - Taking Accountability for Your Life
The preparation work is now over: You have seen your life as a quest to find and embrace yourself through the Lifechart and you are now able to understand the significance of key relationships. This session introduces the crucial victim/accountability exercise. During this exercise, you will feel the heaviness and powerlessness of being a victim, versus the lightness and power of being accountable for the decisions you made that either created or avoided pain with the people you loved.
It is during this session that you begin the journey out of your self-imposed prison of fear. This process is accelerated as you are required to literally contact those people you still carry resentment towards and take total accountability for your own feelings and actions in those relationships, instead of remaining a victim. The result of this exercise is that you can no longer blame someone else for your own deep pain or for the decisions you made from that pain. You are now ready to embrace the sad and alone child within yourself.
Session Four - Connecting with the Child Within Yourself
In this session I demonstrate, once we have taken total accountability for our lives, how we are now in a position to communicate with and listen to the child within ourselves. I utilize a visualization to accomplish this step, which includes questions that you ask the child within yourself. I also clearly demonstrate that the most important step in this self-healing process is taking responsibility for love, in that we have probably felt the deepest pain with the people we have loved the most. As such, taking accountability for that love accelerates the self-healing process.
Session Five - Open Your heart; There are no "Buts" or "What Ifs" with Love
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