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My Birthday Gift: Seeing Myself In My Sons!

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I am an advocate for difference and freedom. I have grown up and discovered my passion in a very public way, having a mother who's an actress, comedian, speaker, and eventually an internationally renowned mental health therapist and expert is part of it. But also having grown up in a family of obnoxious difference meant being forever in the public eye. Our noisy, autistic, colorful, and never fitting the mold family invited stares from strangers pretending not to stare, and judgmental (even fearful) opinions from others pretending to care. 

Living and learning while lots of people watch is quite comfortable for me. I know no other way, and have noticed that it's helped me enjoy and appreciate all the changes in who I am and who we are as a world along the way. When everything is on the table (from spelling mistakes to abusive behavior) it's almost impossible to be very judgmental; of myself or others. 

What I've learned is to try and do, give and accept, learn from and teach to, never waiting until I'm "ready" but to become ready by doing.  

It was my birthday the other day. And my two oldest sons (who live far from me) had something up their sleeve. They knew that I would love it--which is a gift itself! They were excited and thrilled to finally present me with what they had worked on, and were absolutely right to assume would be the most beautiful gift for this mom.  
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A song my son wrote about how cool he and his brothers are. About how different, colorful, and awesome our family is. And a music video of that song edited by my other son, who surprised both me and his brother with the gift. 

You know, there are not many inherently right or wrong answers in this world. All of us are making it up as we go, and I've seen even in my own writings and on camera interviews proof of ever evolving ideas on what is and isn't true, smart, and right. 

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But one thing I can say with confidence is that my sons are getting life right. Gifting me with what I truly want, gifting themselves with what truly matters, gifting the world with what it can always benefit from: Living. Loving. Doing. Celebrating. Trying. Giving. Accepting. 

This music video is a beautiful example that. This video is an example of everything I love and believe. It's proof that parenting by example is still working, and didn't end with my own mom. Putting it out there for the world to see is a family tradition. 

Please take a moment to enjoy the song, the celebration, and the amazing gift that is: My Sons!

"Be the change you wish to see in the world"~Mahatma Gandhi

I've always loved that quote. And it's made even more powerful when we see that it works!!

As the mother of four wonderful teenage boys Tsara spends a lot of time figuring out who she is so she can teach her sons to do the same. She also hears herself holler, "Stop Eating!" an awful lot! As her boys get older, she gets louder while (more...)

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I know... my kids are cute isn't really news! Howe... by Tsara Shelton on Sunday, Dec 15, 2013 at 4:09:42 PM
Those boys have a great mom, why they are such gre... by Judy Swindler on Sunday, Dec 15, 2013 at 4:10:46 PM
LOVE this, how sweet! ... by Meryl Ann Butler on Sunday, Dec 15, 2013 at 6:11:18 PM
Sweet.  Thanks for sharing this with us.... by Burl Hall on Monday, Dec 16, 2013 at 1:14:37 PM