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By Roland Michel Tremblay (about the author) Page 1 of 2 page(s)
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I read somewhere that character could be defined as "attributes that determine a person's moral and ethical actions and reactions". I usually make up my own definitions, especially that when I did a quick search, the word character could be defined in over 20 different ways. Here I mean attitude toward life and others, our reactions, our actions. These need to be kept in check, this is the mark of order in any society.
Some people are nice by nature and nothing seems to affect them no matter what. They never get angry, they never argue, they never even raise their voice. I'm not sure how many of this kind of human beings go on to achieve great things in this world. It seems that the ones achieving great things are more argumentative, shouting all the time, taking control over any situation, pushing others out of their way in order to get where they feel they need to go. I could be wrong.
I would think that the first time you meet someone, you can usually already tell what their character is and their attitude toward life and others. This is when you usually experience some fears that it might not go as planned if you have to work with this person, or joy that making this person a big part of your life might actually bring you some much desired peace and tranquillity.
I have always admired calm people, with a positive outlook toward everything. I am pessimistic by nature, easily bothered, sometimes and quite often angry, ready to bark and bite, I snap at people a lot. My mom was the same, my sister as well, definitely one of my aunts, and perhaps my grandfather. It must be hereditary.
I have seen my mother break out of it though, after her divorce, when she was living with another instable man who could explode at any moment with horrible consequences. It was like someone took my mom and replaced her with someone else, as if he had broken her will. She was crying all the time, speaking softly, lying in order to keep everything and everyone peaceful. Once the man was out of the picture, my mom sort of got back to normal, but she was definitely changed and a bit more human. Was it positive then?
I wonder what it would take to break me like this, to change me from a force of nature filled with pretence, to a frail and weak human being willing to let anyone walk all over me, take advantage of me, humiliate me without me exploding or creating a fuss. I don't think it would be possible in my case, or dear me, what a nightmare I would have to go through to change my nature.
The character of a person can change, however it is a long process and usually will require some radical conditioning, or some unorthodox tactic to weaken the mind, until the victim takes its place, obeys, becomes humble against every fibre in his or her body. Like this infamous "Think First" programme designed to get prisoners to think before they act, or even speak.
If this kind of brainwashing actually works, sometimes it will be temporary, other times it can last forever, but then somehow we could say that this person has become a pale shadow of who he or she used to be, and something must have been lost in the process. Some sort of necessary mind control device to help people from going mental, and once again find their way in a Court of Justice.
You're not a coward, you'll never be a coward, and hence, you are condemned to be before the Judge over and over again until such time that you get the message: you have to be a coward! You have to be a weak mind to function in our society. Don't you ever forget it. It could save you your freedom, the most important thing ever in this world. Learn to become a sheep, to fall in line, and you'll be just fine.
The problem is always in the extremes. If you are well balanced, then most likely you will not need to change, you will never let any situation get out of hand, no one will think you need a session with a psychiatrist or an anger management course. Of course there will be the odd exception, however if it doesn't happen regularly, and if you are generally of good character, then you will get away with it.
If you're a softy by nature, that anyone can humiliate you without it affecting you in the slightest, and you can act as if nothing happened in situations when I would most likely explode, then perhaps you are not alive and also deserve to see a psychologist, or someone to graph you a spine. Because let's face it, how and who could truly go about life, working in a small office packed with 20 to 30 people all wired up and stressed to the limit, and yet feel nothing and get out at the end of the day unscathed?
These people must be disconnected from life, they must feel nothing, or perhaps they feel it hard but somehow succeed in keeping it all inside, and maybe they never need to vent any frustration either. Or, the anger is exploding in the comfort of their own home, driving their family half mad.
It is hard to comprehend, being so submissive, and yet, this is what I have always aspired to be. Somehow I could only be like that if I was far removed from the nightmare going on around me, but how could I be removed from my own existence? Perhaps their mind is just too preoccupied with other personal matters which somehow make working in an office a walk in the park.
I work in a Court at the moment, I read all day these cases where the character of the defendants will most likely decide their fate. If the defendant can prove that he or she is of good character, his or her sentence can be much lighter. This is when I start reading all these self-confessions from defendants filled with lies about their character, when they have been in and out our Court many times for something like at least two decades, and no one in their right mind could believe that they are of good character.
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