It just seems you can't win with the whole dessert thing. If you deprive yourself of one of the life's greatest pleasure (desserts), you end up with a craving and emotional discomfort and if you let go, you end up with obesity and still, emotional discomfort. In terms of psychology, it is referred to as cognitive dissonance.
Cognitive dissonance occurs when your thoughts, feelings and actions are not synced. When you deprive yourself, your thoughts tell you it's a good thing you're doing and your actions seem to tell you the same, but your feelings tell you otherwise. You feel that you want to have some, you crave it but you stop yourself, so in a way, you fight against yourself, leading to discomfort.
The only thing worse than stopping yourself from having desserts, is to actually have desserts but lose the pleasure in the guilt. When you actually have desserts, knowing they are unhealthy, your feelings tell you it's okay to have them, but your actions and thoughts seem to contradict. And before you know it, your feeling of pleasure is lost as guilt takes over. This feeling can be referred to as "post-dessert guilt".
You may think it's okay to experience this feeling, but you'd be wrong! According to Austine Empowerment guide, guilt happens to be the second last, most negative feeling a person could experience, sharing the spot with Insecurity and Unworthiness, as they are all linked.
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Feeling of guilt is a torture. You are left with negativity about something that has already been done and cannot be changed. To top it off, since it affects your body in a negative manner, you lose self-esteem and confidence, which makes you insecure. It is needless to say that insecurity happens to be one of the leading factors responsible for broken relationships. It is also linked to unworthiness, as long exposure to such feelings tends to destroy your self-image (how you think about yourself) and you start doubting your potential and worth, leaving you with a feeling of unworthiness and that you cannot get good things or don't deserve to be happy. In a manner, you start hating yourself and your life! And to think of it, it all began with a simple feeling of guilt.
But what if there were ways of avoiding that? What if there were guilt-free desserts, desserts that are tasty enough to satisfy your cravings yet healthy enough NOT to make you feel guilty? Fortunately, there are. It is important to understand that few ingredients actually make the desserts unhealthy, if you can find substitutes that don't have those side effects, you'll be enjoying them guilt free!
Thanks to the recent advances, it is possible now! As nutritional science has progressed, new ingredients and ways have turned up on how to turn unhealthy desserts into healthy desserts. By doing so, not only can you enjoy desserts guilt free but it may be possible to actually lose existing weight as some fats promote fat-burning processes. Simple techniques such as the use of artificial sweeteners instead of sugar and using flours like the almond flour, can go a long way and save you all the trouble. It's just a matter of getting creative and believing there are other alternatives.
All in all, desserts are one of the life's greatest pleasures and there is no point in stopping yourself from them, as now you have the option to choose healthy desserts and enjoy as many guilt-free desserts as you like, to bring joy and satisfaction to your lives.