Connie Marshner sums this up, "The quality of love and care that a child receives in the first three to five years of life is the main factor in whether that child will be able to think, to learn, to love, to care, to cooperate with other people -- in short, whether that child will merely exist or will thrive and flourish and add to human society".
This is nothing new. Indeed, Freud saw the foundation of human personality being primarily developed by the age of 5. These initial years are extremely important to the well being of the child and his or her effectiveness in the culture and they become adults.
It simply makes common sense. If one does not have good foundations, one is not going to be stable.
Indeed, according to "The New Science of Mother-Child Bonding" which was published on the on-line site "Parenting" shows that groundbreaking new parenting research shows that a strong emotional attachment between a mother and her baby may help prevent diseases, boost immunity, and enhance a child's IQ. (http://www.parenting.com/article/the-new-science-of-mother-baby-bonding)
Could it be that the role and power of women have been demeaned in western culture in order for the "powers-that-be" to maintain more control of the youth so they can manipulate them according to their own will through mass media and corporate day care? Could developmental psychology, with its more scientifically derived skills at conditioning, have played into this plot by disempowering moms to parent? We just need the experts! And how many thousands of years have women and men parented? At what level of awareness do we realize the absurdity of moms and dads needing to be taught by experts on how to parent.
(Of course, in the corporate breaking down of community and extended family, parents have very few resources. Again, this is probably planned for and exhibits the divide and conquer mentality...thus building community and reestablishing relationships is going to be a major part of healing this problem.)
Interesting how we've been parenting for several hundreds of thousands of years without the behaviorists! Overall, until we have disempowered women specifically, and parents living within tight knit communities in general, we were doing quite well as evidenced by several thousand years of evolutionary history. It is in today's world that we are faced with massive extinction of animals, plants and, ultimately, of ourselves on this planet that has been run, and is being destroyed, by the corporate elites. Furthermore, as Deep Ecologist Daniel Quinn has surmised, human beings have not evolved over the course of the past several thousand years. Technology may have evolved, but we have not.
In reclaiming our lives for ourselves, as well as the sake of our children, we need to rid ourselves of these elites, including professionals, and reclaim the power of moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas and the rest of the community. Hilary Clinton was right when she stated we needed a village to raise a child. Unfortunately, many times politicians say the right thing even when they reflect the problem in their day-to-day actions. Another way to state this is that politicians and their supervisory corporate heads are nothing less than sociopathic liars.
Writer and counselor Sigrid Kjeldsen helps to rebuild the important initial relationship of mother to child that is foundational to health. Sigrid is the power behind The Joyful Mother! This is a service to help women re-empower themselves to do their jobs as moms.
Sigrid wonders about her presentation, though, when she states, "People often wonder if I really walk my talk, am I truly a Joyful Mother?"
To this she answers, "You bet I am. That doesn't mean I don't have my off days or make mistakes as a mom. But the thing that keeps me feeling good is the fact that I know mistakes will happen, that I won't do everything right, nor do I aspire to. I know that mistakes help me grow and I anticipate them. I see my mission as a mother to extract learning out of every problem and that by doing so creates depth within myself and connection to my family...That joy and belief in growth infects all that I do and all that I create here at The Joyful Mother. Each program, post, video, teleclass, webinar, and podcast is meant to inspire that same kind of joyful resourcefulness in the listener as well."
According to Sigrid's website, The Joyful Mother, "A truly joyful mother is not a perfect mother. A truly joyful mother is a constantly evolving one. She celebrates what she does well, accepts the things she has done less well, she learns from her mistakes, moves on to do better in the next moment and understands that love and forgiveness has the power to heal both herself and her family."
Sigrid further states about herself, "besides a seriously happy camper, how else could you describe me and why should you care? Well, I am a".A Non-Conformist. As anyone close to me could report, if you tell me to do something your way".I rebel. There is nothing that irritates me more than when someone thinks they know the solutions to my challenges.
Sigrid states that as a Non-Conformist a client can count on her to:
Facilitate change your way. When working directly with me, you get to run the show. Through facilitation, you get to choose where we are going, how fast we go and how long it takes. You get to decide how it is going to taste, feel and look. Imagine me (I know goofy analogy") as the wind beneath your wings! You are doing the work, I get to be the one reminding you to keep flapping your wings!
Sigrid considers herself as a dare-devil. As such, she states her clients can count on her to: