Once we turn our intelligence inward, we come across two great insights. The first involves our understanding of the roles played in our psyche between aggression and passivity. (Read, " Our Messy Mix of Aggression and Passivity .") These two aspects of our psyche are in conflict with each other; the more dysfunctional or neurotic we are, the more intense the conflict is likely to be. Typically, people are aware of the painful symptoms of the conflict but not the conflict itself.
Second, we're inclined to recycle and replay, no matter how painful, whatever negative emotions are unresolved in our psyche. (Read, " Why Our Emotional Suffering Persists .") Inner passivity, a kind of existential self-doubt with which many of us identify, is one of these negative emotions. It causes troubled individuals to feel that aggression, including extravagant displays of it, is their only recourse.Learning this knowledge makes us wiser and more astute. The troubled people who cross our path are also helped in unseen ways by our evolved nature.
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