For instance, Jewish people, by and large, are uniformly finished with the hate that killed 6 million of us in the blitz of Nazi Germany and are on the lookout for wherever this might spring up again.
(Yes, I did notice the initial headlines regarding Paula Deen's alleged racism that included the anti-semitism" accusation).
You will never hear a Jew use the hateful phrase, "Jew me out of" something.
Because I have a Greek last name, I have heard my share of this casual hate talk that some people believe is a-ok.
Imagine their surprise when they are told they are talking to a "Jew". And imagine the deepening shades of red that can quickly transform the human face.
It could be said that because the n word is used by black people themselves, the word therefore a-ok for all to partake in. Wrong.
Black people, and all people, are free to speak about and refer to themselves with one another using whatever terms they choose.
So, it was a bad tact, Paula Deen, to put yourself in the group with the young black people where the n word comes up, or to judge them for the way they speak.
Sadly, there is also a problem with the validity of her other main point.
She urged those who have never used a slur word against another race to throw a boulder at her head.
As Elton John told us, "Sorry seems to be the hardest word".
No one is innocent. There will be no gashes or open wounds on Ms. Deen's head.
It is just bad form to use other people at their worst in the defense of oneself.
Following Deen's talk with Matt Lauer, Today anchor Natalie Morales noted that people were questioning whether Paula Deen shed actual tears during the interview.
I say the matter is not about missing tears; it is the absence of personal responsibility.
There is no doubt that if there was more leakage of behind-the-scenes words and actions of the highly promoted "experts" and hosts of major television shows, we would see how hollow these so-called role models are as real people.