When you least expect it, says Tony de Mello, God comes.
Conversely, when you expect it, God does not come, he says.
Benedictine method of prayer (popularized by St. Benedict):
Lectio = oral reading of Scripture using a familiar text that moves you to devotion and unction.
Meditatio = repeat and relish particular words based on your spontaneous choice, brief and pure.
Oration = outpouring of the heart in words, or silent response.
Do without acting = desireless activity.
Effect without enforcing.
Taste without consuming.
The aim of the retreat is depth.
Silence is related to depth.
The intensity of desire determines whether or not you find God.
But this is not self-generated desire.
This desire is a gift.
Words are used to protect, not to communicate, says Tony de Mello.